One Year Later

Wow, time flies! On June 9, 2008, we arrived home with our three new children to start a new phase of our life as a family. It just seems like it was a month or two ago we were on a 767 from Moscow to Atlanta. Let me take the time to update everyone on the changes that have taken place in the last twelve months.

Nastya and Dima have forgotten nearly all of their Russian. This occurred around nine months home. Polina still recalls about 80% of her Russian and we are going to have to reach out and get some tutoring or something to bring her back to speed. We really would like her to stay in contact with their Aunt Tatiana. She just now called Tatiana on Skype and was very nervous. Unfortunately, Tatiana was at work, but she did get to speak to her cousin Vladick (14 years old).

All three children have lost several teeth and have become a regular at the dentist. I think we have paid for some new furniture and a summer vacation for the dentist with what we have spent on dental bills! I just found out yesterday Dima has another loose tooth. I guess the improved nutrition just sort of made something click inside them.

We had to get some measurements for the one year report to the Russians. All three have grown at least 2 inches in height and gained approximately 5 pounds each. Overall, Dima has grown the most adding about 7 pounds and growing 2.5 inches.

The kids love Sunday School and Awana (church program for kids) and have several friends. Unfortunately, Dima's best friend is moving.

The kids are very shy in public with people they don't know, but talk up a storm with friends of the family. Some may think this is a bad thing, but we don't. The greatest fear/problem adoptive parents have is with attachment. Kids from the detsky dom initially view every adult female as "momma". Sounds sweet until you see your darling child in the arms of a complete stranger. We never had this problem, but I know of some who have struggled with this issue.

To Polina, I am Papa. To Nastya, I am Daddy. To Dima, I am Dad. All three are music to my ears, but I am glad that Polina has held onto "Papa".

Our three older children are doing wonderful. Jeremy just graduated from high school to remind me once again, I am getting old. Christina and Sarah are turning into beautiful young women. Jeremy is going to start college at Auburn University - Montgomery for one year and then transfer to University of Alabama - Huntsville in the fall of 2010. Christina still loves her horses and riding. Her passion for photography and writing are very strong and I am glad she has found something she enjoys and can share with everyone. Sarah is my sensitive one and keeps me on my toes should I become tired or get into a bad mood.

Nearly every night I am home (usually all but one), I read them a story and say a good night prayer with the four youngest. I wasn't so good with the oldest two about this, but now I hope my priorities are more in order. I spend as much time as I can one on one with Jeremy. He is a young man now about to step out into the world and I want to make sure he knows that he is loved and that this is his home - always. I can't pass onto him millions of dollars in inheritance, but I hope that when all is said and done, I have shown him how to love and support his wife, love his children and serve the Lord.

In closing this post, I will say Happy Father's Day. My children have made this one of the greatest Father's Day I have ever had.

God Bless -

Tony B.

Surprises from Far Away & Visits with Family

Well, it is hard to believe, but we are quickly approaching our one year anniversary with our three youngest. Friday, our social worker came to complete our report for the Russian government. Almost 12 months later and the kids were still a little afraid I think. We explained what she was coming to do and why, but it seemed they still were afraid. Dawn even explained they would never have to go back to the detsky dom and that this report was just to make sure we were taking good care of them. The visit ended good even though Polina quickly disappeared after Amy arrived.

We, or I should say, Polina received a wonderful surprise from Aunt Tatiana a few weeks back - baby pictures and baptismal records. I'll have to scan a couple for the blog, they were cute. There were pictures with their cousin Vladik, their aunt and, their grandfather. I wish I had a better picture of the grandfather - it is just a side shot of him. We spoke to Tatiana on Skype just a week earlier and she never told us about the pictures that were in transit so it was a good surprise. Tatiana did update us on the rest of the family. We have learned that Tatiana is a very good woman and did as much as she could for the kids. I have grown to admire her for what she did for my children because I am sure it put her in difficult situations at times.

The kids are growing so much and Dima has lost at least four teeth just in the past nine months. At their next doctor visit, it will be interesting to see how much weight they have gained. The other night, Polina asked me, "Papa, why I have dark circles around my eyes"? I replied, "Because your a Baggett baby - all Baggett's have dark circles around their eyes"! She just looked at me and started to slowly smile.

As far as the language goes, Polina and Nastya speak very good English and have thick Russian accents that they will likely have forever. Sometimes Nastya will say something very serious in that thick accent that just cracks me up (I try not to laugh out loud). Dima has a unique accent that sound to be a mixture of a Russian/South Alabama accent.

That's about it for what has happened in the past 30 days. We are STILL waiting on Social Security cards for the three youngest (we filled January 22). They sent our adoption records to be translated into English. Our records had an English translation attached, but they would not accept that translation because it was not certified. I offered to go locally, get an English translation and have it certified and the answer was "no". I have attached some photos from just a week ago. My brother and his family came home from Pennsylvania and the three youngest got to meet him and their cousin Jessica.

Our days are filled with laughter, tears and yes, frustration - but I would not trade one single day for a million dollars.

God Bless -

My Private Nurse

This past week, I got hit by the flu as did about 4 others in the house. I am just glad it didn't happen a week earlier when I was out of the country. I awoke Tuesday morning in my motel in Pensacola and knew it was going to be a bad day, I just didn't know how bad. I finished my work Wednesday afternoon and God was truly my co-pilot for my 200 mile trip home. Thursday through Sunday, I had my own private nurse - Nastya. She would come to me on the couch (where I was living) and would keep me covered up with her own baby blanket and about three others. Each time, she would cover me up and pat me on the forehead. She would always say something, but in my sick induced brain fog, I could never tell what it was.

Thank you God, for ALL my blessings...

Father-Daughter Banquet

Saturday night, I had the blessing to accompany my four daughters to a father-daughter banquet at church. I was reminded of what my priorities should be and where my children fall in the order of things. All too often, I slide work and providing for my family over and above them. I am better now than I was 10 years ago, but I still need to be reminded.

I was asked to write down four things I love about my daughters. My four things were:
* You care for your friends and their feelings.
* Your love for God's creation - great and small.
* They are blessings from a loving God.
* Specifically for Polina and Nastya, they allowed me to be their papa.

When we got home, Sarah thanked me for taking her. Coming from a 10 YO, that was very special. Friday night, when putting the kids to bed, Polina asked me, "Do you know why I love you"? I said, "no". She said, "Because you my papa". Both comments were so very special, because they were said in sincerity and not just a passing comment.

I am unworthy of such blessings!

A New Year

The past three weeks of 2009 have been interesting with the typical ups and downs of everyday life. The kids are off to a pretty good start on school following the holiday period. Below is an update of the kids:

Jeremy is preparing for college. He took the ACT again to see if he could bump his score up just a wee bit and he did - one point (28). He did very good and his overall score is almost twice what I made in 1980. More than enough to get in any state university. I don't think he gets that from me! He wants to get a degree in computer engineering and seems interested in completing his degree at University of Alabama - Huntsville. I have requested only three things of him; (a)attend Auburn-Montgomery (local) for one or two semesters then transfer, (b) Take only 12 hours per semester the first year and, (c) after completing his degree - work for himself or the Lord (don't go to work for ABCD, Incorporated). He is an intelligent kid and will do well.

Christina is continuing her passion for writing and photography. She spent her money in December and purchased a very expensive camera (enough to make me choke). She has her own website where she makes her prints available. At the 2009 Horse Fair in Montgomery, she had her own booth and offered her services. She had several inquiries and we will wait to see what happens.

My little Sarah is growing up. She is such a delightful young woman and always worried about the feelings of those around her. She and Polina are very close, but at the same time, they both have their own interest. She is all girl and getting into the nail polish and color coordinating her clothes. She has come so far in her education just in the past 12 months. Things she struggled with January 2008, she breezes through now.

Polina is finally putting on weight and getting meat on her bones. She is not quite as picky over her food as she was six months ago. When we arrived in Vladivostok in May, we learned she had gotten her ears pierced. Some less than honest person replaced a gold setting with a cheaper setting. End result - infected ears. We had the earrings removed when we got home (no one in Russia knew how). The holes sealed and healed. For Christmas, she got them pierced again with gold settings. She is working to maintain her Russian by reading her Russian New Testament and using Rosetta Stone.

Dima is our little energy machine. He is as sweet as he can be and full of energy - I mean really full! He will walk over completely unexpected and grab my leg and say, "I love you Pop". He can come up with some dandy stories that were obviously dreams. We make him think about his comments to make him understand that these things did not and could not have really happened. He has improved his ability to control his anger so much, it is just hard to explain. He will still occasionally slip and hit one of his sisters because of something that happened, but it is no where near the frequency that it used to happen. Most significantly, the anger is not there any more. Now when he does lash out, it is just a reaction. They had gone to a party at Christmas for homeschoolers and a little boy snatched something out of his hand. Dawn saw it happen and was wondering of she could grab him before he reacted. He handled himself very well and just moved on to something else.

Nastya is our drama queen. She loves to sing and dance and keeps us in stitches. She will not allow you to hug her neck when saying "goodnight" or "goodbye". If you try, you will get slapped. Now you can hug on her any other time you want without a problem, but she has NEVER liked goodbye.

Well, that's about it. Issues at work have allowed me to help a non-profit group and their efforts to help folks around the world. If things work out well, it may open some doors to allow us to help orphans around the world who are near and dear to us.

Take care and God Bless -

God's Grace - A Christmas Blessing

Christmas has come and gone, and as I sit here thinking over the events of the past couple of weeks I find myself truly at a loss for words. I do not deserve the grace God has shown me. I am a worthless sinner, but God has shown me grace and blessed me with six wonderful children and a loving, God fearing wife. I still have a job after a reorganization than left many long time co-workers without a job. We have a roof over our head and food in our belly. God is good.

We celebrated Christmas with family and we tried to explain to the three younger children what we were celebrating - what Christmas was all about. For the past two weeks, all the children could talk about was Christmas. Once we put up the tree, their eyes got bigger and bigger. Dawn took the four youngest to the dollar store and gave them each about ten dollars to buy presents for each other. To say they were excited was an understatement. Nastya kept wanting to tell me what she bought for me and I kept telling her to wait and let it be a surprise. When they got home to wrap the gifts, then they wanted to wrap everything they could find and offer it as a gift to a family member. So, our Christmas tree was packed with odds and ends from around the house (books mostly).

A few weeks ago, we also went to the local Christmas parade. The three youngest did not know what to think. They stood in amazement as people rode by and thew candy at them. The next morning, Nastya and Dima walked up to me asking if we could go back to that parade. They were a little disappointed when I explained it was gone.

After visiting family, we had our special time together Thursday night. The kids were excited and wasted no time opening their gifts. Their expressions were priceless and I can not do them justice here tonight in trying to describe them.

Like any family, we have had our moments the past day or two with children misbehaving and getting into trouble. But I repeat myself by saying, I am unworthy and truly thankful for the blessings God has provided.

Merry Christmas!

T-Shirt

Christina created the above t-shirt. Below is a link to the site.

http://www.redbubble.com/people/thesilent/t-shirts/2204115-1-slava-bogu