Today we celebrated that on May 19, 2008, God (and a Russian judge) granted us permission to become parents of Polina, Dima and Nastya. I give God the credit because lets be honest, there is no way it would have happened without Him! First of all, He had to touch the heart of young, naive Christian man (Dawn was hard, but not as hard as I was). I tried to ignore Him and then when I started to listen, I thought I would do things MY way. Don't do that - it doesn't work. Here we were, a five person family living on a income of less than $90,000 in a small three bedroom home. Secondly, we had never had a lot of money just laying around and got by because God provided. Now we were facing expenses of over $50,000. Oh yeah, let me add my mom was diagnosed with terminal cancer and Dawn's SUV caught fire and burned up in the middle of it all.
Mom is home now with our Heavenly Father and her mom - looking down on us all. I think she would be pleased with the way things have turned out. Dawn has a big honking, gas guzzling 1999 Suburban 4x4 that we were able to pay cash for. Not fancy, but it runs and hauls 8 people around. As for us, we are doing good. There have been many, many ups and downs. I don't think we have ever written much about the "downs" because you know, with God's help, we got through it all. He died on the cross for my sins and all He asked of me was to be a father to four children without an earthly father. I think I got the easy part no matter what tomorrow brings.
To Polina, Dima and Nastya, thanks for letting me be your dad. I am not perfect and I know I have made mistakes, but never, ever doubt what you mean to me and your mom. No matter what some may say, you are my real kids and I am your real dad.
To Jeremy, Christina and Sarah - this was a big change for our family and I am sure it has been hard on you. You sacrificed a lot and had very little say so in matters. I hope we did our job in explaining why we did what we did and you understood. Thanks for all you have done to help us.
God Bless -
Tony B.
Sunday, May 22, 2011
Three Years
Friday, May 20, 2011
Sunday, May 8, 2011
God's New Plan for Us - Explained
Recently I shared with you the tug Dawn and I have on our hearts for the children and people of Russia. This has been something on-going since our first trip in December 2007 and it has just grown and gotten stronger. So, it is not something we are just jumping into. In fact, three years ago I had a business contact that became a dear friend. Butch kidded with me that he wouldn't be surprised if our next step was to be missionaries to Russia. I laughed it off because even then I did not think it would go this far. This gentleman retired in 2009 due to health reasons and I need to call him and let him know he was right.
Moving to Russia is not easy. Immigration laws make a permanent stay darn near impossible. For that reason, Dawn and I started looking at other opportunities. We spoke with our friend Jeff Ballard who works with orphans in southeastern Siberia. Jeff shared his heart for the orphans and people of Siberia - and then he made us an offer. His offer was to assist him and his family with the homes they had established for orphans. I say "homes' - currently there is only one home, but there are plans for a second home. I had planned to visit the current home in 2008 when we were in Russia for court but due to an illness, I was unable to do so. However, since that trip, we have raised money at church each Christmas for those children and for children in the orphanages they visit.
Dawn and I prayed over the matter and I later sent Jeff a note accepting his offer. We applied to Jeff's mission agency and had an interview with them the last week in April. They called us back in the day following the interview and informed us the board had accepted us. One of the happiest days of my life.
Now for the Q&A.
You have a full time job, are you quitting?
No. Since I can not move to Russia, I will continue my job as long as it is available. This will provide income and insurance.
You say you're missionaries now, but you are not moving and you are working a full time job. What are you going to do?
We will visit churches here in the states to raise money for the homes. For now, we will travel to Russia twice per year - once in the spring and once in the fall. Due to expenses (travel is very expensive), Dawn and I plan on rotating on the trips. I'll make one trip and she will make the other. In Russia, we will spend time with the home(s) and working with the locals in their ministry efforts.
Are you going on deputation (raise money for personal support)?
No, not at this time. As long as I have a full time job, I will not visit churches to raise money for personal support. My desire is to devote 100% of my visits to raising support for the homes in Russia. We will absorb the expenses of the work for as long as we can.
This is long, so I will stop here. I just wanted everyone to know what our plans are. We are excited and probably even a little scared. Please continue to keep us in your prayers.
Saturday, May 7, 2011
Family Update
A lot has taken place over the past three weeks so I will try and cover everything!
We had our social worker visit for the final report to Russia on Polina, Dima and Nastya. It was . . . interesting. Nothing bad, just a new social worker. Very young, no children. Here we are, married 23 years and seven children. In the end, I felt a little insulted - but I got over it.
On April 19-20, we had severe storms roll through our area that resulted in an EF3 tornado touching down about 10 miles away and killing three family members and destroying a nearby brick church. That storm produced 30 tornadoes across the state. One week later, a massive storm system rolled through the state producing 23 known tornadoes killing 236 people. At least two EF5 tornadoes touched down. We were in Virginia when the storms hit and it wasn't until we got home that we were able to check on all extended family members. Jeremy was at school in north Alabama and we were able to get him on his cell phone about 10PM that night - then we lost contact for another 24 hours. My only comfort was that I was able to check news reports on damage and learned that there was no significant damage in his area. The storm photos and videos that have been shown in newspapers and on tv really do not give you the magnitude of the destruction. West Birmingham (Pratt City and Pleasant Grove) area just wiped out. The Christian relief efforts going on are truly amazing. Portable food kitchens are scattered throughout the area feeding workers and families. Pick-up trucks are driving through each area handing out water, cleaning supplies and tarps. Church groups are pulling in each day to volunteer. This is what the Christian family is doing. Yes, the government and Red Cross is there handing out tarps, but the Christian church family from across the south has stepped up and they far out number the government.
We returned from Virginia Sunday night and Monday morning I headed north to take fuel and clean clothes to Jeremy. The city of Huntsville had been without power since the storms hit. No power means gas stations can not pump gas. The school's kitchen was open because it was gas fired. Jeremy was fine. I returned to Huntsville yesterday to pack him up for the summer. He has to return in about 10 days for his finals, but it is good to have the whole family at home. The kids have been so excited about having him home for the summer. He is a great role model for his two brothers and I think it is great they will be able to spend some time with him.
More on our trip to Virginia tomorrow...